Lust - It has four letters and starts with "L" but it definitely isn't Love. Lust is a very powerful, intense and sometimes overwhelming feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring.
Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common mistake for people to confuse lust for love. But why?
Are You In Love Or Is It Lust?
For men, lust is a hormone-driven experience; the brain goes on hold as the testosterone kicks in and takes over. Lust, like it's counterpart love, is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell whether you're in lust or love -- whether she may be "The One," or merely a passing fancy who'll have your blood boiling for only a short while.
What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY physical attraction. Love is a much deeper emotion. Many people (Teens as well as adults) confuse an intense attraction as love. Guys are perfectly capable of engaging in sex before they forge emotional bonds with a girl - and those raging hormones can easily disguise themselves as feelings of love.
Lust is especially dangerous as it causes a guy to think totally with his crotch, so to speak, throwing all reason out the door. When a man's in lust he doesn't care if he and his partner have anything in common. He's not interested in where she comes from or where she's going. His brain is only focused on one thing, and one thing only... Cracking the code to open the door so he can explore her hidden cave. |
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As we have seen,lust is clearly not, and never will be love. Love is based on far more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is an important aspect, but love goes much deeper. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust.
When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them.Love is a mealding of the physical, emotional and the mental. It is the best of all worlds!
Love is a feeling shared between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will.
Love Should Feel Good
Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive.
Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction.
There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper).
If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love...
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